Why do people seek therapy?
People come into therapy for many reasons. Some need to respond to unexpected changes in their lives, while others seek self-exploration and personal growth. When coping skills are overwhelmed by guilt, doubt, anxiety, or despair, therapy can help. Therapy can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping for issues such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship issues, unresolved childhood issues, bereavement, spiritual conflicts, stress management, body image issues, and creative blocks. People seeking psychotherapy are willing to take responsibility for their actions, work towards self-change and create greater awareness in their lives.
What can I expect in a therapy session?
During sessions I ask you to talk about the primary concerns and issues in your life. A session usually lasts between 50 minutes and one hour, although sometimes I will schedule a longer session if needed. I normally meet with clients once a week, however some people like to meet two times a week, and others, after accomplishing most of their primary goals prefer to meet every other week. During the time between sessions, it is beneficial to think about and process what was discussed. I might ask you to engage in certain actions outside of the therapy sessions, such as: journaling, body awareness or reading a relevant book. For therapy to “work,” you must be an active participant, both in and outside of the therapy sessions.
What benefits can I expect from working with a therapist?
Therapy can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:
- Increased self-awareness and self-confidence
- Richer relationships
- Acquiring concrete skills to better manage: stress, depression and anxiety
- Improved communications skills
- More effective problem solving tools
- Clarity in how to resolve old patterns
What is contemplative psychotherapy?
Contemplative Psychotherapy rests in the promotion of awareness, specifically, the awareness of one’s present feelings and behaviors, and the contact between one’s self and his/her environment. It is an experiential therapy that trusts in a persons’ ability to seek out the inherent wisdom that lies within, when given the opportunity. It also emphasizes personal responsibility and the power of the client-therapist relationship.
Will you fix me?
The work that I do with my clients is rooted in the belief that they possess a deep, underlying wisdom and knowledge about their own process. Tolerating and befriending the things that cause us discomfort can allow us to more skillfully access that place of wisdom within. So I’m not a fixer. In my work I help clients safely go to places that they instinctively would rather avoid, and I work with them to uncover areas of wholeness that may have been obscured as a result of difficult things that have happened in the past.
Is therapy confidential?
Confidentiality is an extremely important component to the therapeutic relationship. Everything we talk about in therapy is completely confidential — I can’t share anything a client tells me with anyone else in the world without prior written consent.
There are, however, a few exceptions required by law to this rule. These exceptions include:
- I am required to report any suspicions of child abuse or elder abuse to the appropriate agencies in the State of North Carolina.
- If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person, I am required to notify the appropriate authorities.
- If a client intends to harm him or her self I will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if I fear someone is at the point of taking his or her life and a specific plan and timeframe is in place, it is my duty to once again notify the appropriate authorities.